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Watch As A Dad Struggles With Meeting His Daughter As A Woman For The First Time

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    You can see it right
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    here. Thank you for being here. I
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    appreciate it.
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    Tell me what you're thinking and feeling
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    right now, Gary.
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    I'm hurt
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    bad. Really bad.
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    What do you What do you have to say?
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    Why?
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    I just I just want you to know that you
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    didn't do anything wrong.
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    He didn't do anything wrong.
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    What do you have to say about his
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    reactions to this? I mean, you you can
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    see this is very raw for him. What are
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    your feelings about about the impact on
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    on on your father, Gary? I'm I'm really
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    hurt and I I was kind of scared honestly
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    just seeing his reaction how I don't
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    know if it was anger or if it was just
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    upset.
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    What do you want from him?
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    I just I I just want you to understand
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    that this has nothing to do with how you
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    raised me or anything like that. And I
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    just want you to be okay
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    with I just want you to be okay with me
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    being transgender.
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    Steph, he feels like he's failed as a
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    father. He feels like he he let you
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    down. He's gone back to the point of he
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    says one time for Halloween. Yeah. Uh
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    talk about that.
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    He dressed up
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    like a
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    girl. I thought it was funny at first.
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    Now I certainly don't.
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    And what was the age? High school,
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    maybe?
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    It was It was during high school. Uhhuh.
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    And your reaction at the time?
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    I thought it was
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    Halloween, you know. So I just went
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    along with it. actually pinched him on
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    his behind and said he made a
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    good-looking girl. But I was only
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    joking. He's not a good-looking
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    girl. He's a very beautiful
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    man.
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    Right. He feels that he's failed you as
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    a father. Do you feel that this is a a
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    choice you've made?
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    No. I I've always been like this.
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    I just hid it from everyone.
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    How do you feel about it? I just feel
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    like this is me. This is this is who I
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    am. And how long have you hidden this?
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    As early as seven years old. I don't
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    think he
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    understands the burden that that is, how
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    much energy that takes, how that affects
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    you to live an inauthentic life.
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    Just imagine waking up every day and
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    seeing and being someone that you don't
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    want to be. What do what do you
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    hear in those words? What what do you
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    hear? I hear confusion.
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    So you hear someone that
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    is confused, mentally ill. Yes. What
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    if this is not a mental illness? What
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    if this
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    individual
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    is
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    pre-wired to be a
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    woman but in a man's body? Just I'm just
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    saying what if
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    that is the case? What could you imagine
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    that experience would be like for that
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    person?
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    Pretty hard. Pretty hard.
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Watch As A Dad Struggles With Meeting His Daughter As A Woman For The First Time
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