The REAL Effect of Ghosting People | Simon Sinek

Simon: Think about the way we break up with

each other, right? I don't mean like

you go on one date, you didn't like each

other and you just whatever, that's fine.

That was somebody for four months.

Something happens, you meet somebody else,

you decide you don't like them,

whatever it is, and so you just ghost them

Woman Speaker: Yep, drop that connection.

Simon: Just unfollow on all the social media.

You just stop returning

replying to texts. You stop

returning phone calls.

You just pretend- it's as if you don't exist.

And for the other person,

it's panic as if you've been killed

in a car accident.

Simon: Which is they don't know what's happened
Woman Speaker: Mhm.

Simon: to you. They don't know where you are. And

they don't know what's happened. They

can't get-

And then once they realize you're fine

because they can look on social media

and see you're fine,

now the massive amounts of insecurity,

what did I do, was it me,

oh- it just it destroys someone's

self-worth.

Simon: All because one person was too afraid to
Woman Speaker: Yeah.

have an uncomfortable, difficult

conversation.

Scream, shout, yell I hate you, you never

treated me right, blah, blah, blah.

Good, have closure, you know? But the fear

of confrontation to the point where you

would

literally destroy someone's innards that

will have lasting impact

on how they relate to people from now on

all because you're a little scared to

say I think we should break up and see

other people,

or I met somebody else and I like them

more.

Simon: That's a very difficult
Woman Speaker: Yeah.

Simon: conversation to have for anybody.

That's not easy or fun, but

one person's fear creates complete

destruction in another person's life,

and somebody thinks that's fine. And

those are all skills, learnable,

practicable skills

that are unfortunately flowing by the

wayside.