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Being Deaf & Being Blind - Chatting Disability Stuff w/ Jessica Kellgren-Fozard!

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    I know exactly what you're saying when you
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    say like when you're sitting at home writing
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    you're not like, I'm deaf, I'm deaf
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    I'm deaf, I say the same for me
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    like when I'm
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    sitting around doing my makeup
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    I'm not like ooh I'm blind, I'm blind
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    Like, I'm not thinking about my
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    blindness, I'm just living my life
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    because this is our normal
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    (Music)
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    Hello everybody, we are back
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    with my series , where I sit down
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    with another person
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    from the disability community
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    and we disscuss all things
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    life and disability related
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    and this one is probably the
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    most requested that I've seen.
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    So we finally have Jessica
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    and I'm gonna let you say your
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    last name
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    (Laughs) Jessica Kellgren-Fozard
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    It's ok, I know, it's a difficult surname
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    we literally like went over this before
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    we started filming
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    We've just been like talking on
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    Google Meet
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    And I was like, practicing the name
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    and I was like no, you know what,
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    I got here, I was too deep,
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    I was like, I'm jumping
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    out of the pool.
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    She'll take over. So thank you-
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    It's ok. It's complex.
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    The Kellgren bit is Swedish,
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    the Fozard is my wife's surname,
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    it's from Normandy, smush it together,
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    it's complicated for everyone.
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    Or Jessica Out Of The Closet,
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    which I think is a brilliant name
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    because not only are you one of
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    the most fabulous fashionistas
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    that I follow on social media,
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    but you are also in fact out of
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    the closet, and so I think it's just
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    such a fun username.
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    (Laughs) Yeah,
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    out of the closet in many ways.
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    Out of the gay closet, out of the
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    disability closet, just living life open.
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    That's the way to live life.
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    Being your best, most authentic,
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    confident queen self. And that is
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    exactly what you do.
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    I watch your videos and I
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    legitimately laugh out loud.
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    Like you're one of, not only the most
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    fashionable people I follow but one of
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    the funniest people I follow,
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    and I think that you, just by simply
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    being you, break so many disability
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    stereotypes and misconceptions,
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    and I think it's so fabulous for just-
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    so thank you for just exisiting
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    on the internet.
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    (Laughs) I mean, I could say
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    the same thing about you, Molly.
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    I woke up this morning and I was like,
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    OK, Molly, you have to try to look, like,
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    a little bit half fabulous
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    because you're going to be sitting next to
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    Jessica in a video and it's going
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    to be embarrassing.
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    Oh no, I think you are incredibly stylish,
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    I must say. I always enjoy
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    your Instagram as well.
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    Thank you, I appreciate it.
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    So, I know a ton of my audience
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    knows and loves your content already
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    but for those who don't, would you like to
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    kind of give the brief introduction of who
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    Jessica is in a nutshell.
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    My goodness, okay, the elevator pitch
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    of me, then, I guess.
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    So, I'm Jessica, I'm a YouTuber,
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    content creator. I make content that is
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    generally fun, informative, educational,
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    amusing, around things that are to do with
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    disability, chronic illness, and LGBTQ+
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    issues. So I have two genetic conditions,
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    hereditary neuropathy with liability to pressure
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    palsies, which means that there are gaps
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    in the myelin sheaths that surround your nerves.
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    For me that means that I can paralyze
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    parts of myself, that my nerves are more
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    easily damaged, which does things like
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    affect my hearing and I have loss of
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    vision in one eye because of it, and it
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    can do things like my hands don't have
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    any feeling because I paralyzed both of
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    my arms for a year and a half when I was
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    a teenager. And they came back to a
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    certain degree, but they can't now feel
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    anything, so it's like wearing gloves
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    all of the time. And I don't get hot and
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    cold, any of those kinds of things,
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    or wet. Which is really annoying when
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    you're trying to hang up the washing,
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    'cause you're like, is this wet?
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    Is this dry? Absolutely no idea.
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    And I end up having to like, press my face
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    to all of my laundry to see whether it's
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    dry or not. Very strange thing.
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    And then you just get a random cheek stain
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    or random foundation stain on the side
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    of your white shirt.
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    I mean, I should add, I only do this when
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    I'm not wearing makeup. (Laughs)
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    Pro tip.
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    And then I also have Ehlers Danlos
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    Syndrome, which is about my connective
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    tissue, and means that not only am I
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    hyper mobile, and very flexible and bendy,
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    which most people think is like, whoa,
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    what a great party trick, and it is,
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    it's a pretty good party trick that I
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    perhaps overused when I was a child.
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    I dislocated various things just to prove
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    to people that I could. Don't do that.
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    That's a terrible idea. Don't do that.
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    But it also affects connective tissue in
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    things like my internal organs,
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    so I have some issues with my heart, and
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    I have postural orthostatic tachycardia
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    syndrome, which comes from that,
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    which is just a regulating blood pressure
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    issue, so I faint a lot. And I can't exert
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    myself too much, basically I go up two
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    flights of stairs and I'm like, oh gosh,
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    there's a heart attack coming.
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    Ok, wonderful, and then I've got to lie
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    on the floor for half an hour.
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    And the vintage fashion is just a layer
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    over the top, just to make everything look
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    gorgeous while we're here
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    I think you should
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    make more fashion content.
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    I'm putting the pitch in now,
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    and I think a lot of people
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    in the comments will agree
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    that you should have like a whole segment
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    of your channel devoted to
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    fashion content because we need that
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    vintage inspo that you bring.
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    We need your vintage wisdom.
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    I was just, like, as we were talking
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    before we started filming, I was
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    peppering her with questions
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    about the vintage fashion scene
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    because I am fascinated by it
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    and whenever I've tried to do it,
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    it has not necessarily panned out
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    So, I feel like you should make fashion
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    videos and you know when I started
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    doing fashion content
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    it was kind of like a total mistake
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    I wanted to make one video about, like,
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    accessibility of online shopping
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    and that was
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    supposed to be it.
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    But people requested me keep doing it
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    and I was like
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    "Well, If you want me to feed my addiction
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    and talk about something I love,
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    I am happy to do so"
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    There is people
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    in the disability activism community
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    who have been upset by that.
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    Like, they want me to kind of dedicate
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    my channel to disability.
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    And I can understand that, but
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    to me, I am a human
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    and disabilities are a very real,
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    important topic to me
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    and it affects my life daily,
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    but so does fashion
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    and the confidence that fashion gives me!
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    So does makeup,
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    so does my guide dog,
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    so does dating,
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    so do all these other aspects
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    and I think it's very important
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    for us, as a disability community,
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    to show society the human side
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    of our day-to-day life
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    and the very normal, average
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    human things that we love
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    and that we partake in.
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    Of course, of course
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    I always link this back to
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    children's books
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    because I think it's the easiest way
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    to understand people learning new concepts
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    So, there are so many children's books
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    that are about issues.
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    It's about
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    "Some people are in wheelchairs"
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    or "some people have 2 mums"
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    and kids don't love them.
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    They don't want to read those books,
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    because they're very much
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    focused on this one object that you need
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    to learn. It's not fun!
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    Whereas, when they are reading
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    like a fun, adventure book
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    where oh, the main character just
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    happens to have a disability
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    or just happens to have a different
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    family setup to the nuclear family.
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    Then it's more engaging
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    and they are more willing to learn things
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    And I know the great things about
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    having disabled content creators
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    who are creating content
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    that isn't just disability focused
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    is that you are also bringing in people
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    who wouldn't have necessarily have
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    clicked on your video,
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    being like "Ooh, I don't know,
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    I don't know want to
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    watch something about
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    a blind person
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    because I've never really
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    met a blind person
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    and that could be awkward."
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    But if it's a video where you are
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    doing something else
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    and they click in,
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    they are like
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    "Well, you know what,
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    this is actually really interesting!
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    I'm gonna keep watching her
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    other videos as well."
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    And then, it's just a great way
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    to lead people in, I think
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    And they start to really be
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    more involved in the issues,
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    it's not something that's far away
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    Now, it's "oh, my favourite
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    content creator Molly
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    also happens to have
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    a disability and
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    also happens to talk about that.
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    And now I've learnt things about it"
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    So I always think that's the best way,
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    but, actually, Molly,
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    two birds, one stone,
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    to do with this fashion thing,
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    I think the next time you come
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    to England, I'm gonna have to give you
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    a vintage makeover.
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    Oh my gosh,
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    absolutely!!
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    Once this whole madness
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    in this world is done,
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    and we're all vaccinated,
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    I'm coming out to England,
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    so I can finally see my brother
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    for the first time
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    in over a year.
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    AND I can see you
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    and we are doing the vintage makeover
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    I'm absolutely holding you to that.
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    But I could not agree more with
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    what you've just said.
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    My favourite thing about what
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    I do is that I get to
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    make learning fun for people.
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    I get to teach
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    people in a way that entertains them
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    that truly is the best way to learn.
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    That's how I always
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    learned the most growing up
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    I was never somebody
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    who could sit in class
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    and hear you talk to me about something.
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    I need to be the one
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    that was getting up and doing it
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    I was a very kinesthetic learner
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    I need to be actually doing the thing
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    and immersed in it
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    to be able to understand it
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    and being able to
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    hopefully be entertaining to people
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    um, while they- they learn
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    and open their minds
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    to new ways of thinking
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    is so rewarding
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    so I completely agree with you
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    And I always say
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    we talk a lot in the disability community
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    about the fact that
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    y'know that we're quite low
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    on the totem pole of causes
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    and of things that people care about
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    and talk about or know about.
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    You know, you often see those like
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    "Diversity panels"
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    and it's like everything is shown
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    ... except disability.
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    And we're like "Hey now,
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    "Hi"
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    "Where are we at the table"
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    I think so many different
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    brands and companies
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    think that they can kind of get away
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    doing the absolute least
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    when it comes to disability representation
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    Whether that be in adverts
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    or actually making things accessible.
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    So many of them think
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    "Oh, a person in a wheelchair
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    and we're done.
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    That's it we've represented every
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    disabled person,
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    we've covered everyone's needs, excellent.
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    Of course our brand is friendly to the
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    disabled community, we have a ramp!"
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    And you're like, "Uh-huh, I see.
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    And how are you helping every other
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    disabled person?"
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    Mhm, mhm.
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    Like, people who use wheelchairs
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    actually make up quite a small part
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    of the disability population as a whole.
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    And, people just cannot get this through
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    their heads and, of course, having
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    the disability symbol be a wheelchair,
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    obviously a very visual way to get that
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    across very neatly, but it does tend
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    to make people forget everyone else.
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    Yes and I- I don't know if this has been
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    happening in England but over the
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    last number of years I've been seeing
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    in North America one change is
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    certain places are adding other stickers
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    that represent other disabilities.
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    Which is nice because for example on
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    public transit, like a bus, I need to
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    sit down, it's not a question I need to
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    be able to sit. Because balance is a
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    combination, as I'm sure you know as
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    deaf woman, of ears and eyes.
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    And so my balance, not being able to see
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    is quite off. And so standing on a moving
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    vehicle, even if I'm holding a pole, is
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    just not really a thing for me. So I need
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    sit. And so when I get on a bus with my
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    guide dog, people used to not register
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    that I was somebody who they needed to
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    get out of the disability seating for.
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    Um, so they would just continue to sit
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    there. But now they've added these
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    stickers where it's like a man with a cane
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    a person in a wheelchair and there's
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    somebody with a walker and I'm like
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    Thank you for showing multiple visuals
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    of what somebody who might need to sit in
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    disability seating could present as.
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    Yeah, I've definitely seen in the last few
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    years that kind of not all disabilities
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    are visible stickers on a lot more things
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    in public places. And it's so good to see
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    because I remember when I very first-
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    so I kind of grew up with a disability
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    but it wasn't, well I'm not going to say
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    noticed, but it wasn't diagnosed until
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    I was 17. And then when I was 17 and I
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    suddenly had this big health crisis and
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    very much did need to use, you know,
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    disabled toilets and I need to have
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    access to things. I had a lot of issues
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    with this. Because people were constantly
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    trying to stop me from using things
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    saying "Oh that's not for you that's for
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    disabled people." And I'm like I mean
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    I am, I don't know what I can do to-
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    to make this more obvious to people, that
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    I'm really struggling and things would
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    help me like this. So it's, it is really
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    lovely to see now. I worry less about
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    using disabled toilets in public
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    when they have a "Not all disabilities
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    are visible" sticker on them. Because the
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    dirty jokes I've received coming out of a
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    disabled toilet on two feet is like, ugh.
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    Well I think part of the problem with
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    that too is how many able-bodied people
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    just do use the toilet for people with a
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    disability?
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    Um, so many, so many able bodied people
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    do use different facilities that are
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    accessible and designed for people who
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    actually need them due to a disability.
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    And, so now I think when people see
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    somebody presenting as able-bodied, they
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    just kind of assume they're able-bodied
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    because of how many able-bodied people do
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    take advantage of having a little extra
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    wiggle room in the stall for when they're
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    pooping and they don't want anyone to hear
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    it and I'm like that's not what, that's
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    not what that was for. It's not for all
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    you extra shopping bags, ma'am.
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    It's for people who require either the bar
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    for support, who require the extra room
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    for a support worker, for a service
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    animal, for a mobility device. Like
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    there's many reasons that that exists.
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    But your extra shopping bags or like
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    extra room for popping, isn't what it was
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    for.
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    The unfortunate thing as well is that
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    so many places will put their baby
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    changing facilities into the disabled
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    toilets. And it's not like a special
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    um, weighted table it means that you can
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    anyone larger than a baby. It's literally
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    just there because they've lumped in
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    parents, disabled people, sure. You can
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    use the same facilities, it's fine.
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    You know, you'll never need more than one
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    person using it at the same time. And I've
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    had things where I have walked out of a
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    disabled toilet and a mother rammed her
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    buggy into my legs and was like "Oh, not
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    disabled or with a child then." And I was
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    like uhhhh... And at the time-
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    Actually very disabled thank you!
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    And at the time I mean I was a teenager
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    and I was too upset to say anything or do
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    anything. I'd only just been diagnosed
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    and I was like, oh this label of disabled
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    do I get to use this? Do I have the right?
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    Can I stand up to someone and actually
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    say "Actually I am disabled?" And it
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    really upset me inside and it was so
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    heart wrenching. Despite at the time I
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    had two paralyzed arms. Like, both of my
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    arms were paralyzed and I needed to use
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    the disabled toilet because it was the
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    only way that I could go to the loo.
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    Um, but for ages after that I would not
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    without someone else around.
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    You know, you've mentioned, I've mentioned
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    that you're deaf, and I think there's a
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    a lot of stereotypes that come with that.
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    Just like blindness and people are like
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    "Blindness, you can't see anything," a lot
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    of people think being deaf you can't hear
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    anything. Being deaf you can't speak.
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    There's a lot of things like that and so
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    And then you've mentioned you know your
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    diagnosis or being disabled as a child
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    and all of these things, but we haven't
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    actually like dove into it. So for those
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    of my followers who have never heard your
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    story could you kind of give a synopsis of
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    like, if you're comfortable, what your
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    diagnosis is? I know that uh, things like
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    EDS can be very hard to diagnose again,
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    an invisible disability so what was your
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    diagnosis journey to getting all of- all
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    of these diagnoses?
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    Well, with the NHPP, uh, the diagnosis
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    was sort of straight forward in that it
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    I'd always struggled with my hands and
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    feet as a child. And just being kind of
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    what was called "clumsy" because they
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    didn't realize that it was because I
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    couldn't feel what I was touching. And
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    you don't realize things because you
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    assume as a child that everyone else is
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    like this. So I can't feel the front of
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    my calves because when I was a baby I
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    crawled around on them and I've never been
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    able to feel my knees. And I just assumed
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    no one can feel their knees, right? Like
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    you can't feel the skin on your knees
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    that's weird, who can do that? Um, but I
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    thought this was totally normal til I hit
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    17 and I was in an exam and I lent on my
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    elbow for about twenty minutes whilst I
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    writing. And I got a crick in my neck and
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    woke up the next morning having paralyzed
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    my arms. Because this crick in my neck had
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    been so bad, I'm not helped by the stress
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    of this exam and the fact I'd been on
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    crutches for like six months before this
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    point. Um, and I had paralyzed both of my
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    arms and they stayed that way for a year
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    and a half, which was very difficult. And
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    I got rushed to hospital of course and
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    they were trying to find out what was
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    wrong with me, it could have been a stroke
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    it could have been meningitis. And they
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    ran all sorts of tests, did all sorts of
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    things and then ran a genetic screening
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    and were like "Oh, ah, you're actually
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    missing a gene." I was like, oh right
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    goodness. So I'm a mutant, which is great.
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    Still waiting for my X-men powers.
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    Fellow mutant here so I'm with you.
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    There we go, see? Have you got your X-men
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    powers yet? I'm hoping that mine will kick
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    in soon. / Not quite yet. / A bit late
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    you know? / Yeah I think they're in the
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    mail but you know the mail's been slow lately.
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    It has. We'll just keep blaming it on the
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    pandemic. It's fine. It's fine. So that
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    diagnosis was actually pretty
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    straightforward because it was
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    very much, "oh we ran your DNA, cool
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    you've got this" There we go.
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    But the EDS was a much harder
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    diagnosis and funny enough,
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    actually came from YouTube
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    and my subscribers.
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    So I was diagnosed with a thing called
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    mixed connective tissue disorder. Which
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    is also about being hyper-mobile
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    and having collagen that is kind of
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    too flexible and
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    it also affects your internal organs, but
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    there were parts of it that
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    just didn't- i just didn't fit?
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    I didn't like tick like all of the boxes?
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    I ticked quite a few of them and
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    my doctor was like, "Ah, well.
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    I don't know, maybe it's cause you've got
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    that other thing as well.
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    And you know how doctors don't
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    really talk to each other
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    if it's not their specialty.
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    They're like, "Oh, no, sorry.
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    I'm very specifically an eye doctor
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    so I don't talk to the brain doctor."
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    Like, " Oh, thanks."
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    But this is all one thing.
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    It's all in- it's all in my head so
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    if you could coordinate with each other?
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    They're like, "Oh, no, no, no."
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    Not my thing/It's also just one body.
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    Yeah, yeah. One body. One human.
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    All works. It's a system.
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    And they're like,
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    "No, oh no. Just this one thing"
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    So they always just kind of
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    chalked it up to that.
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    That I had something else and
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    therefore that's why I didn't really
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    fit this profile and it was a bit weird
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    and I talked about it on my YouTube channel
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    I've got this and this
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    but then in other videos I'd kind of
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    talk about what I was struggling with
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    and then say it's a bit hard because
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    my doctor says: This doesn't fit the profile.
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    And people in the comments were like:
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    "That's probably because you have EDS Jessica."
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    "Have you got checked?"
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    "I think you've got EDS Jessica."
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    "Pretty sure you've got EDS Jessica."
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    "This is EDS."
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    And I was like, is it?
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    My goodness.
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    So I went to my GP and said
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    well I didn't say the internet says
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    I have EDS. I was like:
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    I just would like to be re-referred
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    to rheumatology please.
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    So they could maybe check to see
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    whether I definitely have this thing
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    that I was diagnosed with?
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    Or maybe I have another thing.
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    Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome? Heard of it?
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    And my doctor: "Oh well that's not curable,
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    so I'm not gonna refer you"
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    What?!
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    I was like... I'm sorry?
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    Well we just shouldn't know if we have
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    uncurable things.Obviously.
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    What what what?!
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    And he was like "Yeah they're very busy
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    So, I'm not gonna refer you for them."
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    Ok! Right!
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    So I ended up having to go get a
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    private diagnosis.
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    Which, I live in England. We have the NHS.
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    Doing private healthcare is like
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    a weirdly out there type of thing.
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    We don't do that much.
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    So, I went to get a private diagnosis.
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    Saw a private rheumatologist who was like:
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    "Yeah, you've obviously got EDS."
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    I was like, "Oh!
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    Ok, well the internet was correct."
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    See? Sometimes you can listen to the internet.
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    Ok, that's how my Youtube subscribers
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    wonderfully diagnosed me.
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    What a story. I love that for you.
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    Now do your two diagnoses
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    often go hand-in-hand
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    or are they rarely seen together?
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    According to every doctor I have ever met,
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    I am the only case of these two things
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    interracting. Because, HNPP is quite
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    a rare neurological condition.
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    And it comes from my father.
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    What a combo.
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    Well, it's made quite a wonderful woman.
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    So, I'm glad we have you.
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    I'm not glad for your pain.
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    I'm not glad for what you had to go
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    through to get here.
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    With such a powerful voice and
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    a powerful story.
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    As you've said, you've come out of the
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    As a disabled woman as well as being gay.
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    Can you share some of that journey
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    of intersectionality. Coming to terms
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    different minority communities.
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    and a very different journey then most
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    young LGBTQ+ people.
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    really does play into that.
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    So, I don't have a coming out story
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    because I never came out to my parents.
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    I was just always kind of like:
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    I really like this gal in the X-Men and
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    we're going to date and I
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    will marry her one day.
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    And my parents were like:
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    "She's animated but you do you."
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    I'm like: Yeah!
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    Sp, I think partly my parents
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    are Quakers.
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    So they never put any expectations
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    on me. That I had to be a certain way.
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    They never said, you know,
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    "When you grow up and get a husband."
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    It was always just:
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    "When you grow up and if you choose
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    to get married."
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    I'm like, yeah ok.
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    So it always felt very open and
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    like I could kinda share that part of me.
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    But, being disabled and having that with me
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    as I was growing up.
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    Not knowing that I was disabled but knowing
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    that there was something about my body
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    that was wrong and people weren't listening to.
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    Weren't believing in.
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    Because, my god, when you're a child
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    and you try to tell adults things,
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    it can be very difficult to explain
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    medical conditions because people dont
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    Cause you're a kid."
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    Like, no no.
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    Genuinely, I'm having a migraine
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    right now. I realize
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    I'm a child but I'm having a migraine.
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    And having that to kinda battle agaisnt
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    and deal with made my sexuality
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    almost a...it almost became
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    something that I, of course,
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    I would just accept it.
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    Because I had something that was weighing
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    quite heavily on me and my
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    sexuality only brought more joy.
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    It was only, I mean I'm not saying it
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    brought me joy as in like,
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    I had lots of girlfriends.
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    Which I really didn't at all.
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    But it brought me joy in that,
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    I would have these beautiful really
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    have this massive crush on an actress
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    and I get to like, watch her and things.
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    and feel happy and I was like yeah!
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    This being gay thing is great!
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    I love it!
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    But then the body.
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    I was like ugh, my body is useless.
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    But at least I'm gay.
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    So I've got that going for me.
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    Yeah, it became more of a saving grace
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    throughout my teenage years.
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    Struggling against a body that didn't work
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    and being told that it should,
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    being told that I was incorrect on something.
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    And then having this thing that I was
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    really sure of and happy with and
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    quite passionate about.
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    So, it's definetly a different coming out
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    then most LGBTQ+ young people
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    but I, in a way, hope that it's something
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    that we get more of going forwards.
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    That it's more accepted.
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    That children are able to
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    just speak their minds.
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    That people can support them.
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    That's a really beautiful story. Honestly.
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    You know a lot of my friends growing up
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    were LGBTQ+ because I was the only
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    disabled kid and they were the only gay kid,
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    or the only trans kid, and so y'know we
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    just were like, "Hey!
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    kids in class. We should be friends."
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    And so I really like hearing your story
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    because it is very different than what
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    a lot of my LGBTQ+ friends went through.
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    There's actually a really big crossover
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    I think, correct statistic, is that
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    one third of people who are LGBTQ+
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    also have a disability.
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    Which is a really interesting statistic.
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    But I think a lot of it has to do with
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    the fact that you have to come out
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    something else. Like you're more
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    you're like, "Look, let me just
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    that I am disabled, so while I'm here,
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    I'm gay too."
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    Well yeah! It's like you already have this
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    big thing to accept about yourself.
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    You already have this big target on your
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    back or you know a community runt
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    so you're like, ok well, I've got one
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    thing here's the other.
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    So I can see that statistic being true
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    honestly because, as I said, some of my
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    so I kinda do have a lot of friends in
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    both worlds and I see a lot of that
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    crossover. I see that now, at this point
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    in my life, see both communities.
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    Many people do identify as being
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    a part of both.
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    When you met your wife did she know
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    sign language.
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    No! (laughs)
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    She didn't. In fact, I first met my wife,
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    on our first date, I hadn't told her
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    anything about my disabilities.
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    I kind of wanted to see whether she
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    liked me because I'd been on so many dates
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    and spent so much time explaining
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    what's up/ Yup!/ and you never hear from
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    them again and ugh, it's such a waste of
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    my time!/ Very much agree!
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    But then you have to balance it with
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    do I want to go on a number of dates
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    or do I want to spend a whole month
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    talking to someone and then I tell them
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    and they're like, "Oh, I can't redo that?"
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    And then you're like, "Ugh! Well I
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    just wasted my month of talking to you.
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    What a waste of time!"
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    So when she first came up
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    she actually thought that I was wearing a
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    bluetooth device and if it's working?
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    Cause she saw my hearing aids and was like
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    "Oh, she's working hard! Continuing on
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    with her bluetooth device."
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    And I think to start with, though I was
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    a bit rude that I hadn't removed
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    my headphones. I was like:
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    "Umm yeah should probably tell you
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    that I'm deaf."
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    And so yeah she didn't know anything.
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    But she was very blasé on our first date
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    I didn't tell her, you know,
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    "This is me. I have this disability.
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    This is how it affects me."
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    She was like, "Ok. Mmm. Do you still like
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    to go for walks in the woods?"
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    "I do."
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    "Do you still like national trust properties?"
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    "I do."
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    And it was just like the basic things that
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    she needed to know like, "Are you good
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    around trees?"
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    "I love trees. It's wonderful."
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    "Do you love an old property?"
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    "Love an old property."
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    "Excellent"
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    Basics of our marriage, that.
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    Country girls at heart.
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    That is actually exactly how a first date
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    with a disabled person should go.
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    Word to anybody who ever goes on a date
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    with a disabled person.
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    That's how you know it's a good match:
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    If you're able to be blasé and focus on
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    the actual parts of them that are human
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    instead of the disability. Key!
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    You will win a lot of points with us.
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    (giggles)
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    You mentioned something that like
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    really hit me and maybe we can talk about
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    it more on the video that we do on your
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    forever long but it like almost got me
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    like choked up because when you said it
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    And that is: You look more capable then
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    you sometimes are.
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Being Deaf & Being Blind - Chatting Disability Stuff w/ Jessica Kellgren-Fozard!
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