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Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami

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    Even if you don't understand,
    you can still support and uplift us.
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    Our identity, it continues
    to be legitimate and it exists.
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    I'm Cami,
    I'm 22 years old, I'm non-binary,
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    and I'm here to talk
    about non-binary identities.
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    Non-binary is an umbrella term
    that includes all gender identities
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    includes all gender identities
    that are not exclusively masculine or
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    exclusively feminine.
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    So, it represents both agender,
    "a" meaning subtraction,
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    without gender, which is neutral and
    also all the fluid gender identities
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    like if we imagine gender as a spectrum
    with two sides, masculine and feminine,
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    and a cursor that moves.
    So, all the people who are
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    genderfluid, demigender, pangender, etc.
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    I never really identified with femininity.
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    When I was 18, I had already
    started to ask myself questions
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    about my gender identity and
    I had met a trans man who I
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    was with for some time and we were
    able to put my identity into words
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    which were non-binary.
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    I think it's because he had
    way more info than me,
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    that he knew how to help find
    the words for my identity.
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    Gender identity is what we are.
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    It's the gender we feel, live,
    and experiment with
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    and gender expression
    is what we show others.
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    It's how we express that identity.
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    So, you could have,
    for example, a gender identity
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    that is masculine: so a man,
    and you could have
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    a gender expression that is feminine
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    with a lot of markers
    deemed to be feminine in society.
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    Like Bilal Bassani,
    who is a man with a feminine
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    gender expression.
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    I told my parents
    I was non-binary and that
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    I also wanted to change my name.
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    I was 20, so that was 2 years ago
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    and my mom took the news very well.
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    She was already up-to-date
    with gender issues.
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    She had already deconstructed
    those concepts and was very safe.
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    I felt secure.
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    With my dad,
    it was a little more delicate.
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    I took a little more time
    to talk to him and
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    I didn't do it in person.
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    I sent him a message because, in fact,
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    it was easier for me to handle
    and he reacted pretty well.
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    He said he didn't understand everything
    but in any case
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    he would be there to support me
    and that it changed nothing for him,
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    that he loved me the same.
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    With my grandma,
    it was a little tricky because
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    it's something that's
    very unfamiliar for her.
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    She grew up in the countryside.
    Then, she moved to Paris.
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    She lived with my grandpa for 50 years.
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    lived in contexts that were so
    cis and heteronormative,
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    she never really asked herself questions
    about her identity or others'.
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    So, when I talked about it with her,
    she was shocked,
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    but she's always looked out
    and wanted the best for me.
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    She's making a lot of effort,
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    she rarely makes
    any mistakes with my name now.
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    I made a request to
    change my name in 2019.
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    I submitted the request
    to the city I was living in.
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    I obtained a form that
    I filled with evidence
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    from my friends that proved they use
    the name Cami when referring to me.
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    I asked my school to write
    a letter of support.
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    Then, I submitted my form.
    I waited a couple of months.
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    The time varies from city to city.
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    And I got my name change accepted.
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    The act of misgendering someone,
    is to address that person
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    by using the wrong pronouns for them.
Title:
Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami
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