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Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami

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    Even if you don’t understand
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    You can still support us.
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    Our identity is legitimate, it exists.
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    Non-binary Stories
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    I’m Cami, I’m 22, I am non-binary.
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    I’m here to discuss the term non-binary.
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    Non-binary is an umbrella term
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    For all gender identities
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    That are neither exclusively
    masculine or feminine
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    Which could be agender, where “a”
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    Means no gender
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    Or it could be all gender-fluid identities
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    So if you imagine gender as a spectrum
    between masculine and feminine
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    You can have a curseur
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    which moves around all gender fluid people:
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    Demi-gender, pangender, etc.
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    I never identified with femininity
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    At 18, I already started
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    To question my gender identity
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    And I met a trans man
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    Who I dated for a while
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    And we were able to label my identity
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    Which is non-binary.
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    And I think that
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    Because he was more informed
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    He could help me find
    the words for my identity
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    Gender identity is who you are.
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    It’s the gender we feel,
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    we live, we experience.
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    And gender expression
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    Is what we show to others
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    It’s the way we express this identity.
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    So you can have a gender identity,
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    For example, masculine, so you’re a man,
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    And you can have a gender expression
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    That is feminine, with many stereotypically feminine markers,
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    Like Bilal Hassani, who is a man
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    With a feminine gender expression.
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    I told my parents I was non-binary
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    And that I wanted to change my name
    at the same time.
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    Two years ago, I was 20
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    My mom took it well.
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    She was already knowledgeable
    about gender issues.
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    She already had a
    deconstructed view of gender
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    I felt very safe.
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    My dad was a bit trickier.
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    It took me longer to tell him
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    And I didn’t do it in person.
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    I sent him a message
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    Because it was easier for me.
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    He reacted well.
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    He said he didn’t totally understand
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    But regardless, he would support me
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    And it didn’t change anything for him.
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    He loved me the same as ever.
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    For my grandma, it was a bit less clear
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    Because the topic was foreign to her
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    She grew up in the countryside,
    then moved to Paris.
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    She lived with my grandfather
    for 50 years.
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    She was only used to
    cis-hetero-normativity,
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    she had never questioned her identity.
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    Or the identity of others.
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    When I spoke to her,
    she was a bit taken aback
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    But she always insisted and ensured
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    To try her best for me.
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    She tried very hard.
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    She almost never messed up
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    using my preferred name
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    I applied to change my name in 2019.
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    I applied to my city hall
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    I was given a file to fill out
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    With testimonials from loved ones
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    To say they called me Cami
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    I asked my school
    to write me a reference, etc.
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    Then I submitted the file
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    And I waited a few months
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    It varies by city
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    And I had been accepted for a name change.
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    To misgender someone
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    Is to refer to them
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    Using the wrong pronouns.
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    For example referring to
    a non-binary person
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    Who explicitly says
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    they use neutral pronouns, like they/them,
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    With feminine or masculine pronouns.
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    I personally use the pronouns
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    she/her when spoken,
    and they/them when written.
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    But in general I often say right away
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    That I prefer that people refer to me
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    With she/her pronouns when speaking.
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    After, if the person
    doesn’t give their pronouns
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    And you want to be sure
    you’re not misgendering them
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    You can ask them for their pronouns
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    Or wait for the person
    to refer to themselves
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    And follow their use of pronouns.
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    On the previous videos I’ve made
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    There were a lot of comments
    that invalidated our identities.
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    That denied our gender expressions
    and identities.
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    Now, I don’t read many comments
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    Only because I know that mostly
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    They’re malicious or misinformed
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    And they’ll only hurt me.
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Title:
Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami
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Video Language:
French
Duration:
05:55

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