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Even if you don’t understand
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You can still support us.
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Our identity is legitimate, it exists.
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Non-binary Stories
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I’m Cami, I’m 22, I am non-binary.
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I’m here to discuss the term non-binary.
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Non-binary is an umbrella term
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For all gender identities
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That are neither exclusively
masculine or feminine
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Which could be agender, where “a”
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Means no gender
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Or it could be all gender-fluid identities
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So if you imagine gender as a spectrum
between masculine and feminine
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You can have a curseur
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which moves around all gender fluid people:
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Demi-gender, pangender, etc.
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I never identified with femininity
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At 18, I already started
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To question my gender identity
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And I met a trans man
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Who I dated for a while
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And we were able to label my identity
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Which is non-binary.
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And I think that
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Because he was more informed
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He could help me find
the words for my identity
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Gender identity is who you are.
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It’s the gender we feel,
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we live, we experience.
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And gender expression
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Is what we show to others
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It’s the way we express this identity.
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So you can have a gender identity,
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For example, masculine, so you’re a man,
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And you can have a gender expression
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That is feminine, with many stereotypically feminine markers,
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Like Bilal Hassani, who is a man
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With a feminine gender expression.
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I told my parents I was non-binary
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And that I wanted to change my name
at the same time.
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Two years ago, I was 20
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My mom took it well.
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She was already knowledgeable
about gender issues.
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She already had a
deconstructed view of gender
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I felt very safe.
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My dad was a bit trickier.
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It took me longer to tell him
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And I didn’t do it in person.
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I sent him a message
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Because it was easier for me.
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He reacted well.
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He said he didn’t totally understand
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But regardless, he would support me
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And it didn’t change anything for him.
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He loved me the same as ever.
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For my grandma, it was a bit less clear
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Because the topic was foreign to her
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She grew up in the countryside,
then moved to Paris.
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She lived with my grandfather
for 50 years.
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She was only used to
cis-hetero-normativity,
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she had never questioned her identity.
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Or the identity of others.
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When I spoke to her,
she was a bit taken aback
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But she always insisted and ensured
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To try her best for me.
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She tried very hard.
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She almost never messed up
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using my preferred name
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I applied to change my name in 2019.
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I applied to my city hall
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I was given a file to fill out
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With testimonials from loved ones
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To say they called me Cami
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I asked my school
to write me a reference, etc.
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Then I submitted the file
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And I waited a few months
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It varies by city
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And I had been accepted for a name change.
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To misgender someone
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Is to refer to them
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Using the wrong pronouns.
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For example referring to
a non-binary person
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Who explicitly says
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they use neutral pronouns, like they/them,
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With feminine or masculine pronouns.
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I personally use the pronouns
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she/her when spoken,
and they/them when written.
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But in general I often say right away
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That I prefer that people refer to me
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With she/her pronouns when speaking.
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After, if the person
doesn’t give their pronouns
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And you want to be sure
you’re not misgendering them
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You can ask them for their pronouns
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Or wait for the person
to refer to themselves
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And follow their use of pronouns.
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On the previous videos I’ve made
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There were a lot of comments
that invalidated our identities.
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That denied our gender expressions
and identities.
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Now, I don’t read many comments
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Only because I know that mostly
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They’re malicious or misinformed
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And they’ll only hurt me.
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