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Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami

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    Even if you don’t understand,
    you can still support and stand by us.
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    Our identity is still real and valid.
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    [Non-binary Stories]
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    My name is Cami, I’m 22
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    And I’m here to talk about
    my non-binary identity.
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    Non-binary is an umbrella term
    for any gender identity
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    that isn’t exclusively masculine
    or exclusively feminine.
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    That could be agender
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    “a” indicating
    the absence of gender
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    which is neutral
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    Or it could be a fluid identity.
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    If we imagine gender
    as a spectrum
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    with two poles:
    masculine and feminine
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    A fluid identity might
    move around that spectrum.
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    This includes people who are gender fluid,
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    demigender, pangender, etc.
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    I never really identified with femininity.
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    At 18, I was already
    questioning my gender identity
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    and I met a trans man
    who I dated for a while.
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    Together, we put my identity into words:
    non-binary.
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    I think that because he was
    much more informed than me
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    He was able to help me
    find the words to describe my identity
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    Gender identity is who you are.
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    It’s the gender you feel,
    that you live, that you experience.
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    And gender expression
    is what you present to the world.
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    It’s the way you express your identity.
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    For example, you could have
    a masculine gender identity:
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    So you’re a man,
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    And your gender expression
    could be feminine,
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    Meaning it has lots of markers
    that society thinks of as feminine.
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    For example,
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    Which I came out to my parents
    as non-binary,
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    I also told them that
    I wanted to change my name.
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    It was two years ago,
    when I was 20.
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    My mom took it very well.
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    She was already well versed
    in gender identity
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    She’d done enough unlearning.
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    I felt safe with her.
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    Telling my dad was a bit trickier.
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    It took me longer to talk to him,
    and I didn’t do it in person.
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    I sent him a message
    because it was easier for me to manage.
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    He reacted quite well.
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    He said he didn’t understand everything
    but that he supported me no matter what,
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    that it didn’t change anything for him,
    and that he loved me just the same.
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    It was harder for my grandmother
    because it was very foreign to her.
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    She grew up in the countryside
    before moving to Paris.
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    She lived with my grandfather
    for 50 years.
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    She lived in a very
    cisheteronormative environment
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    where she never questioned
    her gender identity or anyone else's.
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    When I told her,
    she was a bit out of her depth.
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    But she always made sure
    to interact with me
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    in the best way she could.
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    She tries really hard.
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    And she almost always
    uses my chosen name now.
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    I applied for a legal name change
    in 2019.
Title:
Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami
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Video Language:
French
Duration:
05:55

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