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Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami

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    Even if you don't understand, you can
    always support us and be with us.
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    Our identity is real and it exists.
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    My name is Camille, I'm 22 years old.
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    I'm non-binary and I'm here to talk to
    you about nonbinarity.
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    Nonbinarity is an umbrella term that
    includes all the gender identities
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    that are neither completely masculine
    nor completely feminine.
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    So that can be "ungendered" or without
    gender which is neutral,
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    or it can be all the gender fluid
    identities, including those
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    who are gender fluid, demigendered,
    pangendered , etcetera.
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    If you imagine gender as a spectrum
    with two poles - masculine and feminine -
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    and a cursor that could be anywhere
    between them, it would include everyone
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    who is gender fluid, demigender,
    pangender and so on.
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    I never really identified with femininity
    and when I was 18,
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    I'd aleady started to ask myself
    questions about my gender identity.
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    I met a trans man I was with for awhile
    and together, we found the words
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    for my identity, which was non-binary. And
    because he knew more about it than I did,
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    he could help me find the words for
    my gender identity.
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    Gender identity, it's who you are, the
    gender that you feel, that you try out.
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    And gender expression is what you
    show to others.
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    It's the way you explain your identity.
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    So you can have a gender identity, for
    example masculine, so you're a man.
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    But your gender identity could be feminine
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    with lots of markers that our society
    considers to be feminine.
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    For example Bilal Hissani, who is a man
    with female gender expression.
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    I told my parents I was non-binary and at
    the same time,
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    that I wanted to change my first name.
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    I was 20 years old so it was 2 years
    ago and my my mom took it very well.
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    She was already totally up to speed
    about questions of gender.
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    She was sufficiently deconstructed and
    I felt very safe, very secure with her.
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    My dad, that was a little more delicate.
    I took more time to talk to him about it.
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    And in fact I didn't really do that -
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    I sent him a message because it was easier
    for me to handle. And he reacted well.
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    He said he didn't understand everything
    but he'd always be there to support me,
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    and it that it didn't change anything for
    him, that he loved me just as much.
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    For my grandmother, it was loss obvious
    because it was a foreign concept for her.
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    She grew up in the country,
    then went toParis.
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    She was with my grandfather for 50 years
    and was very much cis-heteronormative,
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    where she neve questioned her
    identity or that of others.
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    So when I talked to her about it,
    she was a bit surprised,
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    but she always tried to behave in the
    best way she could with me.
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    She tried really hard. She almost never
    made mistakes in my first name.
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    I'd made a request to change my fist name
    in 2019, through my town's city hall.
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    I got an application form that I filled
    with testimonies from my family and
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    friends to say that they used the first
    name Cami to talk to me.
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    I asked my school to write a letter
    of support, and so on.
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    Next, I submitted the application.
    I waited a few months.
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    In fact, that varies from city to city,
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    but my request to change my name
    was accepted.
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    To misgender someone is to speak to them
    using the wrong pronouns,
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    which thus genders a non-binary person
    who would have explicitly said
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    to use neutral pronouns like iel.
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    And instead people use pronouns that
    identify them as feminine or masculine.
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    Personally, I use feminine pronouns in
    speaking and neutral pronouns to writing.
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    It's true that in general I tend to
    say up front that I prefer people to use
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    feminine pronouns when they speak to me.
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Title:
Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami
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French
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