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Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami

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    Even if you don't understand, you can
    always support us and be with us.
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    Our identity is real and it exists.
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    My name is Camille, I'm 22 years old.
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    I'm non-binary and I'm here to talk to
    you about nonbinarity.
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    Nonbinarity is an umbrella term that
    includes all the gender identities
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    that are neither completely masculine
    nor completely feminine.
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    That can be "ungendered" or without
    gender which is neutral,
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    or it can be all the gender fluid
    identities, including those
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    who are gender fluid, demigendered,
    pangendered , and so on.
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    If you imagine gender as a spectrum
    with two poles - masculine and feminine -
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    and a cursor that could be anywhere
    between them, it would include everyone
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    who is gender fluid, demigender,
    pangender and so on.
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    I never really identified with femininity
    and when I was 18,
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    I'd aleady started to question my own
    gender identity.
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    I met a trans man I was with for awhile
    and together, we found the words
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    for my identity, which was non-binary. And
    because he knew more about it than I did,
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    he could help me find the words for
    my gender identity.
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    Gender identity, it's who you are, the
    gender that you feel, that you try out.
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    And gender expression is what you
    show to others.
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    It's the way you explain your identity.
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    So you can have a gender identity, for
    example masculine, so you're a man.
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    But your gender expression could
    be feminine
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    with lots of markers that our society
    considers as feminine.
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    For example Bilal Hissani, who is a man
    with female gender expression.
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    I told my parents I was non-binary and at
    the same time,
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    that I wanted to change my first name.
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    I was 20 years old so it was 2 years
    ago and my my mom took it very well.
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    She was already totally up to speed
    about questions of gender.
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    She was sufficiently deconstructed and
    I felt very safe, very secure with her.
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    My dad, that was a little more delicate.
    I took more time to talk to him about it.
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    And in fact I didn't really do that -
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    I sent him a message because it was easier
    for me to handle. And he reacted well.
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    He said he didn't understand everything
    but he'd always be there to support me,
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    and it that it didn't change anything for
    him, he loved me just as much.
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    For my grandmother, it was loss obvious
    because it was a foreign concept to her.
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    She grew up in the country,
    then went to Paris.
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    She was with my grandfather for 50 years
    and was very much cis-heteronormative,
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    where she never questioned her
    identity or that of others.
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    So when I talked to her about it,
    she was a bit surprised,
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    but she always did the best she
    could with me.
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    She tried really hard. She almost never
    made mistakes in my first name.
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    I'd made a request to change my first name
    in 2019, through my town's city hall.
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    I filed out an application form with
    statements from my family and friends
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    sayimg that they called me Cami.
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    I asked my school to write a letter
    of support, and so on.
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    Next, I submitted the application.
    I waited a few months.
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    In fact, that varies from city to city,
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    but my request to change my name
    was accepted.
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    To misgender someone is to speak to them
    using the wrong pronouns,
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    which thus genders a non-binary person
    who would have explicitly said
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    to use neutral pronouns like iel.
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    And instead people use pronouns that
    identify them as feminine or masculine.
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    Personally, I use feminine pronouns in
    speaking and neutral pronouns in writing.
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    Generally, I say up front that I prefer
    that people use feminine pronouns
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    when they speak to me.
    If they don't do that on their own
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    and you want to be sure that you
    indentify their gender correctly,
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    you can ask them their pronouns or
    wait until they identify their gender
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    so you can follow their lead.
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    In the videos I made earlier,
    there were a lot of comments
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    that invalidated our identities, that
    denied our gender expressions
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    and our gender identities. After, I read
    very few of those comments because I know
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    that they're usually malicious or very
    insensitive. And they just bring me pain.
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    I've already taken part in a report where
    you could hear that it's just a fad,
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    that it appeared a few years ago.
    In the United States, about 10 years ago.
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    It was related to fashion, like
    unisex fashion and so on.
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    That's completely false and I also think
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    it's a point of view that's totally
    white and absolutely Eurocentric.
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    Because in so many cultures, there are
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    several gender identities that were
    completely erased during colonisation.
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    Often enough, we hear it's problematic or
    awkward to create more and more categories
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    for people to self identify and re-self
    identify. But I think it's so important,
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    in the first place, to be able to self
    identify with something in order to
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    de-self identify with an identity
    that was arbitrarily assigned.
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    And I think it's also necessary to find a
    community, to create a link,
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    to know we're not alone, that there's
    support, that there are other people
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    who are like us, who understand us,
    who listen to us.
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    If I have only one thing to say, it would
    be that even it you don't understand,
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    you can always support us and be with us.
    You can learn.
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    You can deconstruct your
    patterns of thought.
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    You can help your friends and family,
    even if you don't entirely understand
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    the impact of what their gender
    means to them.
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    A second thing is that all non-binary
    people have different ways
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    of expressing their identity.
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    Some will have medical transitions,
    some will take hormones,
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    have operations, other things. And
    no matter how they transition or not,
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    socially, medically and so on,
    our identity is legitimate and it exists.
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    And there are many of us.
Title:
Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami
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