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Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami

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    Even if you don’t get it,
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    you can still support and help us.
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    Our identity is still valid and real.
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    My name is Cami, I’m 22,
    and I am here to tell you about
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    my nonbinary identity.
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    It is an umbrella word for
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    all gender identities that are not
    exclusively male nor female.
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    This includes agender identity
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    – “a” for the absence of gender,
    which is neutral –,
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    Or all fluid identities,
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    as if gender was a spectrum
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    with two poles: male and female.
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    Fluid identity can move around
    that spectrum.
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    This includes people who are gender fluid,
    demigender, pangender, etc.
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    I never really related to feminity.
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    At 18, I already started
    questioning my gender identity.
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    I met a trans man
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    who I dated for a while.
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    Together, we found words
    to express my identity:
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    nonbinary.
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    I think that because he was
    much more than me,
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    he was able to help me
    find the words for my identity.
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    Gender identity is what you are,
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    it’s the gender you feel,
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    the one you live, you experience.
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    Gender expression is
    what others see in you,
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    it’s the way you express your identity.
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    For instance, you can have
    a male gender identity:
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    therefore, you are a man.
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    But you can also have
    a female gender expression,
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    with markers society perceive as female.
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    For example, Bilal Hassasni is a man
    with a female gender expression.
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    I told my parents I was non-binary
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    and that I wanted to change my name
    at the same time.
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    I was 20 years old, two years ago.
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    My mother took it very well
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    she was already well-informed
    about gender identity.
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    She was open-minded and very safe.
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    I felt safe with her.
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    Telling my father was a bit touchier.
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    It took me longer to tell him,
    and I did not do it in real life.
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    I sent him a message because
    it was easier for me to do.
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    He reacted well enough:
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    he said although
    he may not get everything,
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    he'd still be there no matter what,
    nothing would change for him,
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    and that he loved me just the same.
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    It was a bit harder for my grandmother
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    because it was foreign to her.
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    She grew up in the countryside
    before coming to Paris.
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    She lived 50 years with my grandfather.
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    She was used to
    cisheternormative environments
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    where she never questioned her identity
    or anyone else’s.
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    When I told her she was quite stunned,
    but she always made sure
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    to treat me the best way possible.
Title:
Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami
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Video Language:
French
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05:55

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