Discover the concept of non-binary: Cami's experiences

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A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
Non-binary gender identity

My name is Camille,

I’m a 22 year-old,
non-binary person

and I’m here to talk
about this gender identity.

Non-binary is an umbrella term

that includes all gender identities,
not just male and female.

This can encompass agender,

where the letter « a » denotes
neutrality or genderless person,

or this can refer to any form
of evolving gender identities,

such as imagining being
on a spectrum with two ends,

male and female.

Think of a cursor that moves

all individuals
whose gender identities evolve,

link somewhat to a gender
(demigender)

or relate to many genders
(pangender), etc.

I never relate myself to femininity.

When I was 18,
I started to question

about my gender identity,

and I met a trans-man.
We spent some time together and

could piece together my identity
as a non-binary.

I believe he was
more informed than me

and was able to help me find
descriptions about my identity.

Gender identity,
it is who we are.

It’s what you feel,

what you live,
what you experience.

And gender expression is
what we outwardly present.

It’s how we express
this identity.

Say, we can have
a gender identity,

like, male :

One is a man,

and has a gender expression

that appears female,
with several indicators

considered to be feminine
in the society.

Like Bilal Hassani,
who is a man

with a female gender expression.

I informed my parents
that I am a non-binary

and that I want to change
my given name

at the same time.

2 years ago, I was 20.

My Mom was receptive.

She was already prepared.

She created
an inclusive, safe space.

I felt secured.

My Dad,
it’s somewhat fragile.

I put more time explaining
to him

but I didn’t do it

seriously.

I sent him a note,

because it’s simpler
to deal with.

He didn’t really fight back.

He didn’t really get it,

but in any case,
he will support me

and that won’t change
the way he loves me

Things are less clear
for my Grandma,

because it’s something
she’s unfamiliar with.

She grew up in the rural area.

Then, she moved to Paris.

She lived with my Grandpa
for 50 years.

She was surrounded
by beliefs in heterosexuality,

where she never questionned
her identity

or other’s identity.

So, when I spoke with her,

she was a bit astonished.

But she tried to control herself
in front of me.

She made enormous efforts,

She’s hardly wrong

with my given name.

I requested a given name change
in 2019.

I submitted a request

to my town’s city hall.

I took out an application
that I filled out

with testimonies
by my nearest and dearest

that they called me, Cami

I asked my school
for a letter of support.

Then, I submitted my application.

I waited for a few months.

This depends on the city halls.

I received approval
for the name change.

The meaning of misgendering,

it’s to call someone
the wrong given name,

thus attaching a specific gender
to a non-binary

who had explicitly indicated

to use gender-neutral pronouns,
such as « they »

and categorizing the individual
as male or female.

Personnally, I include my pronouns