Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami

Even if you don't understand

You can still support and affirm us

our identity is real and it exists.

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My name is Cami. I'm 22
and non binary

and I 'm gonna tell you about
being non-binary

the term "non-binary"
is an umbrella term

for all gender identities

that are neither masculine or feminine

This includes being A-gender:

being genderless, or neutral

Or it can be all fluid genders:

Like if you imagine gender as a spectrum
with two sides:

masculine and feminine

and there is cursor that moves

for all gender fluid people like

demigender,

poly gender people, etc.

I never really associated with femininity

at 18

I was already starting to question
my gender identity

and I had already been seeing
a trans guy for some time

And together we were able to
put words to my identity:

nonbinary.

And I think this is because
he had lots more information than me

so he knew how to help me find the words

to describe my identity.

Gender identity is what you are

Its the gender you feel,

you live, you experiment with

and gender expression
is what you will...

present to others

It's the way you will
express this identity

your gender identity could be

masculine, for example,
so you are a man

and your gender expression
will be feminine

with lots a features
societally feminine features

like Basanni,: a guy
with a feminine gender expression

I told my parents that I was
nonbinary

and that I wanted to change pronouns
at the same time

I was...

20
so it was 2 years ago

And my mom took it very well

she was already familiar

with this deconstructed view of gender

so she was very safe
and I felt safe

my dad, it was a little more sensitive

It took me a little longer
to tell him

And I didn't do it in real life

I sent him a message
because it was easier to control

and

he reacted pretty well

He said that he didn't
understand everything

But he was still there for me
and this didn't change a thing

he loved me the same

With my grandma
it was less straightforward