Discovery of Non-binary: Cami's story

Even if you don't understand,
you can always support and encourage us.

Our identity is still legalized
and it exists.

My name's Cami, I'm 22,
and I'm non-binary

and I'm here to talk about non-binary.

Non-binary is an umbrella term
that includes all gender identities

that aren't only male
or only female.

It can be agender so "a", subtracts,

and it means genderless, is neutral,
or it can be all fluid identities,

as if gender is a spectrum with 2 poles,
masculine and feminine.

We can have a cursor that moves.

Everyone who identifies as gender fluid,
demigender, pangender, etc.

I never really identified with femininity.

At 18, I already started asking myself
questions on my gender identity,

and I met a trans guy,
who I was with for some time,

and we put into words my identity,
which is non-binary.

I think it's because he had much more
information than me

that he was able to help me find the words
about my identity.

Gender identity is what we are.

It is the gender we feel,
we live with and experiment with.

And Gender expression
is what we let others see.

It is the way we express our identity.

We can have a gender identity

for example, male:
we're a guy,

and we'll have a gender expression

that is feminine, with many labels
considered feminine in society.

For example, Bilal Hassani is a man
with a feminine gender expression.

I told my parents that I was non-binary

and that I wanted to change my first name
at the same time.

I was 20, so it was two years ago.

My mom took it very well.

She was already familiar
with gender issues.

She was very deconstructed to the idea
and very safe.

I felt safe.

With my dad, it was a bit delicate.

I took more time to talk to him
and I didn't do it in person.

I sent him a message
because it was simpler for me to handle.