“Every marriage has clashes but not every clash builds marriage. Disagreements are part of any godly union. But disagreements should lead to greater agreement. Misunderstanding should produce greater understanding. When we waste our misunderstandings, rather than learning from them, we end up repeating them. And that is a common cause of love growing cold - because we’re living in the past. You remind your husband of the past. You remind your wife of the past when conflicts come and so you end up repeating them, rather than learning from them, rather than growing through them. Misunderstanding must come. Disagreement must come. Conflict must come. But as Christians who understand the past is over, we are to learn from them, grow through them. There's a difference between life experience and life lessons.”

You can watch the full message from Brother Chris here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wM-dvPVFv9w