Mending Ties on ‘Īd

As-Salāmu ‘alaykum wa-raḥmatu Llāhi
wa-barakātuh.

A‘ūdhu bi-Llāhi mina sh-shayṭāni
r-rajīm. Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm.

Aṣ-ṣalātu wa-s-Salāmu ‘alá Rasūlinā
Muḥammadin Sayyidi l-awwalīna

wa-l-ākhirīn. Madad yā Rasūla Llāh,
madad yā Sādātī Aṣḥābi Rasūli Llāh,

madad yā Mashāyikhanā,
dastūr Mawlānā Shaykh ‘Abdu Llāh

al-Fā’iz ad-Dāghistānī, Shaykh Muḥammad
Nāẓim al-Ḥaqqānī. Madad.

Ṭarīqatuna ṣ-ṣuḥbah,
wa-l-khayru fi l-jam’iyyah.

Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm.

"Innamā l-mu’minūna ikhwatun
fa-aṣliḥū bayna akhawaykum,

wattaqū Llāha la‘allakum turḥamūn"
(49:10).

Ṣadaqa Llāhu l-‘aẓīm.
Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla says

on the occasion of ‘Īd.

Today is the second day of ‘Īd.

Şeker bayramı, ‘Īd ul-Fitr,
‘Īd of fasting.

It is its second day today.

Things to be done on ‘Īd are

the accepted things near Allāh ﷻ.

Visiting relatives

is important among them.

Having good ties with relatives

is very beneficial

for Muslims.

Those who don't have good ties;

who are cross with their relatives

have cut ties.

And there is punishment for that.

It is a sin. It is not makrūh

but sin when angry people

don't visit their relatives on purpose

and don't talk to them.

Certainly, there are some conditions.

If they are out of religion,
no need for them.

But if they are Muslim,

these holidays are the means

to mend ties with them,

to make peace between Muslims.

Especially, if there is resentment

and discontent within
a family, that is necessary.

It is wrong. People nowadays

interpret things as they like.

Those interpretations
are invalid in Islām.

There must not be resentment.

Even if your Muslim brother
is not your relative

by blood, you can't be cross with him.

You should give salām,

and no need to pursue more.

It is ok to give salām.
But to cut off completely...

There are some people who don't

accept your greeting when you give salām.

We have witnessed that.
We went to some place,

we visited a madrasah

somewhere in Russia.

We gave salām. We thought maybe the man

didn't hear me. But then we understood

he was salafī.

If a salafī gives salām
to us, we accept it.

If a shī‘a gives salām, we accept it.

Whoever it is, accepting salām is farḍ.

Giving salām is sunnah,
accepting is farḍ.

Therefore, this thing is important on ‘Īd.

It is the occasion to forget

about resentment and discontent.

Even if you don't have much familiarity,

you should give salām. That's it.

Discontent is not good for you.

It is not good both physically and

spiritually. Because when

two angry people are

together in the same place,

there won't be a nice atmosphere.

They call it bad energy.

They sit angrily, one here
and another there.

And they look badly at each other.

That whole condition and atmosphere

will be bad. Therefore,

as Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla created us

and knows us, He ﷻ is teaching us

the best things

through our Holy Prophet ﷺ.

If we do that, we will be at ease.

We are giving just one example here.

And there are many more things. Therefore,

may resentment be gone on
the occasion of ‘Īd in shā’a Llāh.

May goodness come instead.

Because good ties
with relatives are important.

People who don't have good ties

with relatives lose their rizq.

It leads to poverty. Therefore,

on the occasion of ‘Īd in shā’a Llāh

angry people should make peace.
At least, they should give salām

or send a message by phone

if they can't meet.

That is also good in shā’a Llāh.

May Allāh ﷻ let us walk on this
beautiful way shown by

Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla
in shā’a Llāh. Everything is

with His ﷻ permission.
May Allāh ﷻ be pleased.

Today second day of ‘Īd, ‘Īdu l-Aḍḥá

Turkish they say sugar ‘Īd, Bayram.

Because after fasting they are...

it is blessed day, nice day.

This in ‘Īd we do many thing.

First day ofcourse praying
and meeting people.

Three days we must be feast for

muslim, mu’min, make children happy,
make family happy.

Visit friend, visit especially relative.

It is very important to visit
relative if they are not far.

You can visit them.

This very important in Islām
to be good with your relative.

Many people they are fighting and
they are not speaking to each other.

This is not from Islām.

You must be close to your family,
especially relative.

This is order of Allāh ﷻ.

When you do this,
Allāh ﷻ be happy with you.

If you do, you are fighting,
not speaking to them.

This is sin from Islām.

Also not only makruh or not good saying.

No. It is you be make sin.

Which you must ask
forgiveness from Allāh ﷻ

and you must be in touch with this people.

If you are not so happy, just no need to

be not speaking to them.

You can make greeting them,
salām, sending something.

No need to be too much together

but not to be not speaking.

And even this for Muslim
between each other.

Also cannot be mu’min who believer,

good muslim, to be
fighting with other muslim

and not speaking to them
more than three days.

Maybe some people they are

not happy with other
not speaking at all.

But if they are, you must make at least

make greeting them, salām,

salāmu ‘alaykum or
say anything like this.

Because muslim must be soft, must be

accept what Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla,

Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla He ﷻ create us

and He ﷻ gave us what is best

life...to be in life, in new life,

to be happy, to be get every good thing.

He ﷻ teach us. And this
is special for this.

When somebody greeting you,

you must also greet them.

Because if there is people

fighting and they
are not happy with...

each other and they are in same place,

so everyone not happy in this place.

Because this people they have tension,

they are not happy with each...together.

So they will be this place not good.

But if they are peace and people happy,

everybody happy in their side.

You, especially for salām,

you can make salām.

I think if anybody

they send, saying salām,
you must repeat for him.

This is what Prophet ṣallá Llāhu
‘alayhi wa-sallam saying.

We are following his ﷺ order

and we are in ḥamdu liLlāh ṭarīqah,
meaning his ﷺ way, his ﷺ way.

Anybody saying for you,

you are... once I have been in some place

in russia, like tatarstan or something.

There one madrasah, they invite us there.

And we go through...
through there, we walking.

So few people they have beard.

I said, ṣalāmu alaykum. Not replying.

I thought maybe I, my voice it's...

not, he didn't hear
but he was like...like this.

After I know they were salafī, wahhābī.

When you say salām, it's not taking salām.

They not reply your salām.

This is not to reply
salām obligatory, farḍ.

To say salām sunnah, to make

wa-‘alaykumu s-salām, it's farḍ.

But maybe somebody is coming
place, many people,

one of them if you say salāmu ‘alaykum,

one of them say wa-‘alaykumu s-salām,
it's enough for all of them.

But if not, all of them they be sinner.

For this I know this was salafī but

our ṭarīqah anybody saying salām for you,

Salafī, Wahhābī, Shī'āt, Mu'tazila,

anyone saying salām you must

we reply for them this is salām.

Because this is, we not looking for that.

We looking for order of Prophet ṣallá
Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam, we reply.

And other we not...

obligatory to look what he is,

he is this, he is that, he is that, no.

For this you must say salām for

your relative and to be
visit your relative also

very important for benefit for you.

Make your rizq, provision,

provision to be you get this provision.

Without this you become less provision.

You must, you may becoming poor.

For this very important
to be, if you have,

you like to have more richness,

you must visit or to be in touch
with them at least.

This is for ‘Īd. It's occasion for

to be good relationship
with people and to

to fix your...

relationship between them, in shā’a Llāh.

Allāh ﷻ bless you. Wa-min Allāhi
t-tawfīq, al-Fātiḥah.