Mending Ties on ‘Īd

As-Salāmu ‘alaykum wa-raḥmatu Llāhi
wa-barakātuh.

A‘ūdhu bi-Llāhi mina sh-shayṭāni r-rajīm.
Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm.

Aṣ-ṣalātu wa-s-Salāmu ‘alá Rasūlinā
Muḥammadin Sayyidi l-awwalīna

wa-l-ākhirīn. Madad yā Rasūla Llāh,
madad yā Sādātī Aṣḥābi Rasūli Llāh,

madad yā Mashāyikhanā,
dastūr Mawlānā Shaykh ‘Abdu Llāh

al-Fā’iz ad-Dāghistānī, Shaykh Muḥammad
Nāẓim al-Ḥaqqānī. Madad.

Ṭarīqatuna ṣ-ṣuḥbah,
wa-l-khayru fi l-jam’iyyah.

Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm.

"Innamā l-mu’minūna ikhwatun
fa-aṣliḥū bayna akhawaykum,

wattaqū Llāha la‘allakum
turḥamūn" (49:10).

Ṣadaqa Llāhu l-‘Aẓīm.
Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla says.

On the occasion of ‘Īd . . .

Today is the second day of ‘Īd,

sugar feast, ‘Īdu l-Fiṭr,
‘Īd of fasting.

It is its second day today.

The things to be done on ‘Īd are

those accepted in the sight of Allāh ﷻ.

Visiting relatives

is important among them.

Having good ties with relatives

is very beneficial for Muslims.

Those who don’t maintain good ties,

who are angry with their relatives,

have cut those ties.

And there is punishment for that.

It is a sin. It is not merely makrūh,

but a sin when people, out of anger,

don’t visit their relatives on purpose

and don’t talk to them.

Certainly, there are some conditions.

If they are out of religion,
no need for that.

But if they are Muslim,

these holidays are the means

to mend ties with them,

to make peace between Muslims.

Especially, if there is resentment

and discontent within a family,
that is necessary.

This [resentment] is not acceptable.

People nowadays interpret
things as they like.

Those interpretations
are invalid in Islām.

There must not be resentment.

Even if your Muslim brother
is not your relative

by blood, there must not be
resentment toward him.

You should give salām,

and no need to pursue more.

It is enough to give salām.
But to cut off completely . . .

There are some people who don’t

accept your greeting when you give salām.

We have witnessed that.
We went to some place,

we visited a madrasah

somewhere in Russia.
We gave salām.

We thought maybe the
man didn’t hear me.

But then we understood
he was Salafī.

If a Salafī gives salām
to us, we respond.

If a Shī‘ah gives salām, we respond.

Whoever it is, responding
to salām is farḍ.

Giving salām is sunnah;
responding is farḍ.

Therefore, this thing is important on ‘Īd.

It is the occasion to forget

about resentment and discontent.

Even if you don’t have much familiarity,

you should give salām. That’s it.

Discontent is not good for you.

It is not good both physically
and spiritually.

Because when two
angry people are

together in the same place,

there won’t be a nice atmosphere.

They call it "bad energy".

They sit angrily, one here
and another there.

And they look badly at each other.

That whole condition and
atmosphere will be bad.

Therefore, as Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla
created us

and knows us, He ﷻ is teaching us

the best things

through our Holy Prophet ﷺ.

If we do that, we will be at ease.

We are giving just one example here.

And there are many more things.

Therefore, may resentment be gone
on the occasion of ‘Īd, in shā’a Llāh.

May goodness come instead,

because good ties with
relatives are important.

People who don’t maintain good ties

with relatives, their rizq
(provision) decreases.

It is a cause of poverty.

Therefore, on the occasion
of ‘Īd, in shā’a Llāh,

angry people should make peace.
At least, they should give salām

or send a message by phone

if they can’t meet.

That is also good, in shā’a Llāh.

May Allāh ﷻ let us walk on this
beautiful way shown by

Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla,
in shā’a Llāh.

Everything is with His ﷻ permission.
May Allāh ﷻ be pleased.

Today, second day of ‘Īd, ‘Īdu l-Fiṭr

Turkish, they say "Sugar ‘Īd, Bayram".

Because after fasting they are . . .

It is blessed day, nice day.

This in ‘Īd we do many thing.

First day, of course, praying
and meeting people.

Three days, we must be feast for

Muslim, mu’min, make children happy,
make family happy,

visit friend, visit especially relative.

It is very important to visit
relative, if they are not far.

You can visit them.

This very important in Islām,
to be good with your relative.

Many people, they are fighting and
they are not speaking to each other.

This is not from Islām.

You must be close to your family,
especially relative.

This is order of Allāh ﷻ.

When you do this,
Allāh ﷻ be happy with you.

If you do, you are fighting,
not speaking to them.

This is sin from Islām also,

not only makrūh, or not good, saying.

No. It is you be make sin.

Which you must ask
forgiveness from Allāh ﷻ,

and you must be in touch with this people.

If you are not so happy,
just no need to

be not speaking to them.

You can make greeting them,
salām, sending something.

No need to be too much together,

but not to be not speaking.

And even this, for Muslim,
between each other.

Also cannot be mu’min, who believer,

good Muslim, to be
fighting with other Muslim

and not speaking to them,
more than three days.

Maybe some people they are

not happy with other,
not speaking at all.

But if they are, you must make, at least

make greeting them,

"Salām, Salāmu ‘alaykum,"
or say anything like this.

Because Muslim must be soft,

must be accept what
Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla,

Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla He ﷻ create us

and He ﷻ gave us what is best,

life, to be in life, in your life,

to be happy, to be, get every good thing.

He ﷻ teach us. And this
is, especially for this:

when somebody greeting you,

you must also greet them.

Because if there is people

fighting, and they
are not happy with

each other, and they are in same place.

So, everyone not happy in this place.

Because this people, they have tension,

they have, not happy together.

So they will be, this place, not good.

But if they are peace, and people happy,

everybody happy, their side.

You, especially for salām,

you can make salām.

I think, if anybody

they send, saying salām,
you must repeat for him.

This is what Prophet ṣallá Llāhu
‘alayhi wa-sallam saying.

We are following his ﷺ order,

and we are in, al-ḥamdu liLlāh, ṭarīqah,
meaning his ﷺ way. We are in his ﷺ way.

Anybody saying for you, you are . . .

Once, I have been in some place

in Russia, like Tatarstan or something.

There one madrasah, they invite us there.

And we go through
there, we walking.

So few people, they have beard.

I said, "Salāmu ‘alaykum."
Not replying.

I thought maybe I, my voice
it's not, he didn't hear.

But he was . . .
[makes a face] like this.

After I know they were Salafī, Wahhābī.

When you say salām,
it's not, taking salām,

they not reply your salām.

This is not . . . To reply
salām, obligatory, farḍ.

To say "salām" sunnah;

to make "wa-‘alaykumu s-salām" is farḍ.

But maybe somebody is coming
place, many people.

One of them, if you say
"salāmu ‘alaykum,"

one of them say, "wa-‘alaykumu s-salām,"
it's enough for all of them.

But if not, all of them will be sinner.

For this, I know this was Salafī,

but our ṭarīqah, anybody
saying salām for you –

Salafī, Wahhābī, Shī‘ah, Mu‘tazilah –

anyone saying salām, you must,

we reply for them, this is salām,
because this is . . .

We not looking for that.

We looking for order of Prophet ṣallá
Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam: to reply.

And other, we not

obligatory to look what he is –

he is this, he is that, he is that – no.

For this, you must say salām for

your relative, and to be,
visit your relative also.

Very important for benefit for you.

Makes your rizq, provision,

provision to be, you get this provision.

Without this, you become less provision.

You must, you may becoming poor.

For this, very important
to be, if you have,

you like to have more richness,

you must visit or to be in touch
with them at least.

This is for ‘Īd. It's occasion for,

to be good relationship
with people, and to

to fix your,

this relationship between
them, in shā’a Llāh.

Allāh ﷻ bless you.

Wa-min Allāhi t-tawfīq, al-Fātiḥah.