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Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami

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    Even if you don’t get it
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    you can still support and
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    respect our identity.
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    It’s valid and it exists.
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    Testimonials: Non-binary Identities
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    I’m Camille, 22, non-binary
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    and I’m here to talk about non-binarity.
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    Non-binary is an umbrella term
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    for all gender identities
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    that aren’t strictly male or female.
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    It could mean being no gender (agender)
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    or it could be all fluid identities,
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    as if we were imagining gender
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    as a spectrum with two poles
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    masculine and feminine
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    We can move on this spectrum like a cursor
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    So, this includes people who are
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    gender-fluid, demi-gender, pangender, etc.
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    I never really identified with femininity.
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    At 18,
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    I started questioning my gender identity.
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    I was dating a trans man.
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    And he helped me put words to my identity:
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    non-binary.
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    I think because he had access to
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    more information than I did,
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    he was able to help me to find
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    the word of my identity.
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    Gender identity is about who we are
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    the gender you feel, live and experience.
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    Gender expression, on the other hand,
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    is how we present that identity to others.
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    For example, someone can identify as a man
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    so he is a man.
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    He can have a feminine gender expression,
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    with many makers considered
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    feminine in society.
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    Like Bilal Hassani, who is a man
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    but has a feminine gender expression.
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    When I came out as non-binary,
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    I told my parents
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    I wanted to change my name.
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    I was 20, so that was two years ago.
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    My mom was chill,
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    she was already very aware of gender topic
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    She is very open-minded,
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    and made me feel safe.
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    My dad was a bit trickier.
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    I waited longer to tell him and
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    ended up doing it over text.
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    Because it felt easier that way.
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    And he responded well.
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    He said he didn’t fully understand
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    but reassured me he’d support me
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    no matter what and
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    that it didn’t change anything for him.
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    He still loved me the same
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    My grandma had a harder time with it.
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    Because it was just so far from her world.
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    She grew up in the countryside,
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    later moved to Paris,
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    and was married to my grandpa for 50 years.
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    She was part of a cis-heteronormative way
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    where she never questioned her own identity
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    or anyone else’s.
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    So, when I told her about it,
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    she was a bit taken back.
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    But she’s always tried her best
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    to respect me
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    She makes a huge effort,
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    and she hardly ever messes up my name.
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    I applied to change my name in 2019.
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    I submitted my request
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    to the city town hall where I lived.
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    I picked up a file that I filled out
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    with statements from friends and family
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    confirming they used
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    the name Cami to address me.
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    I asked my school to write me a letter of
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    a letter of support and so on.
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    Then I submitted my application
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    and waited a few months.
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    In fact, it varies depending on the city,
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    and I was accepted for the name change.
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    Misgendering someone means
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    using the wrong pronouns for them.
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    So misgendering a non-binary person
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    who explicitly said to use neutral pronouns
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    such as “they/them”, but someone refers
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    to them as “he” or “she” instead
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    Personally, I use pronouns “she/her”
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    when speaking and
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    neutral pronouns when writing.
Title:
Découverte de la non-binarité : le témoignage de Cami
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Video Language:
French
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05:55

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