How miscommunication happens (and how to avoid it) - Katherine Hampsten
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0:07 - 0:10Have you ever talked with a friend
about a problem only to realize -
0:10 - 0:15that he just doesn't seem to grasp
why the issue is so important to you? -
0:15 - 0:19Have you ever presented an idea to
a group and it's met with utter confusion? -
0:19 - 0:20Or maybe you've been in an argument
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0:20 - 0:23when the other person suddenly accuses you
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0:23 - 0:27of not listening
to what they're saying at all? -
0:27 - 0:28What's going on here?
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0:28 - 0:30The answer is miscommunication,
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0:30 - 0:31and in some form or another,
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0:31 - 0:33we've all experienced it.
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0:33 - 0:35It can lead to confusion,
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0:35 - 0:36animosity,
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0:36 - 0:37misunderstanding,
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0:37 - 0:42or even crashing a multimillion
dollar probe into the surface of Mars. -
0:42 - 0:45The fact is even when face-to-face
with another person, -
0:45 - 0:46in the very same room,
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0:46 - 0:48and speaking the same language,
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0:48 - 0:51human communication is incredibly complex.
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0:51 - 0:55But the good news is
that a basic understanding -
0:55 - 0:56of what happens when we communicate
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0:56 - 0:59can help us prevent miscommunication.
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0:59 - 1:04For decades, researchers have asked,
"What happens when we communicate?" -
1:04 - 1:07One interpretation,
called the transmission model, -
1:07 - 1:12views communication as a message that
moves directly from one person to another, -
1:12 - 1:16similar to someone tossing a ball
and walking away. -
1:16 - 1:17But in reality,
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1:17 - 1:21this simplistic model doesn't account
for communication's complexity. -
1:21 - 1:23Enter the transactional model,
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1:23 - 1:27which acknowledges the many
added challenges of communicating. -
1:27 - 1:30With this model, it's more accurate
to think of communication between people -
1:30 - 1:32as a game of catch.
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1:32 - 1:36As we communicate our message,
we receive feedback from the other party. -
1:36 - 1:40Through the transaction,
we create meaning together. -
1:40 - 1:43But from this exchange,
further complications arise. -
1:43 - 1:45It's not like the Star Trek universe,
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1:45 - 1:47where some characters
can Vulcan mind meld, -
1:47 - 1:50fully sharing thoughts and feelings.
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1:50 - 1:53As humans, we can't help but send
and receive messages -
1:53 - 1:56through our own subjective lenses.
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1:56 - 2:00When communicating, one person expresses
her interpretation of a message, -
2:00 - 2:02and the person she's communicating with
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2:02 - 2:05hears his own interpretation
of that message. -
2:05 - 2:10Our perceptual filters continually shift
meanings and interpretations. -
2:10 - 2:12Remember that game of catch?
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2:12 - 2:14Imagine it with a lump of clay.
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2:14 - 2:16As each person touches it,
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2:16 - 2:18they shape it to fit
their own unique perceptions -
2:18 - 2:21based on any number of variables,
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2:21 - 2:25like knowledge or past experience,
age, race, gender, -
2:25 - 2:29ethnicity, religion, or family background.
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2:29 - 2:32Simultaneously, every person interprets
the message they receive -
2:32 - 2:35based on their relationship
with the other person, -
2:35 - 2:37and their unique understanding
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2:37 - 2:42of the semantics and connotations
of the exact words being used. -
2:42 - 2:45They could also be distracted
by other stimuli, -
2:45 - 2:46such as traffic
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2:46 - 2:47or a growling stomach.
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2:47 - 2:50Even emotion might cloud
their understanding, -
2:50 - 2:53and by adding more people
into a conversation, -
2:53 - 2:55each with their own subjectivities,
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2:55 - 2:59the complexity of communication
grows exponentially. -
2:59 - 3:03So as the lump of clay goes back and forth
from one person to another, -
3:03 - 3:06reworked, reshaped, and always changing,
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3:06 - 3:11it's no wonder our messages sometimes
turn into a mush of miscommunication. -
3:11 - 3:14But, luckily, there are some
simple practices -
3:14 - 3:18that can help us all navigate our daily
interactions for better communication. -
3:18 - 3:20One:
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3:20 - 3:24recognize that passive hearing
and active listening are not the same. -
3:24 - 3:28Engage actively with the verbal
and nonverbal feedback of others, -
3:28 - 3:32and adjust your message to facilitate
greater understanding. -
3:32 - 3:33Two:
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3:33 - 3:37listen with your eyes and ears,
as well as with your gut. -
3:37 - 3:40Remember that communication
is more than just words. -
3:40 - 3:41Three:
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3:41 - 3:45take time to understand as you try
to be understood. -
3:45 - 3:47In the rush to express ourselves,
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3:47 - 3:50it's easy to forget that communication
is a two-way street. -
3:50 - 3:53Be open to what
the other person might say. -
3:53 - 3:55And finally, four:
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3:55 - 3:58Be aware of your personal
perceptual filters. -
3:58 - 3:59Elements of your experience,
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3:59 - 4:02including your culture,
community, and family, -
4:02 - 4:04influence how you see the world.
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4:04 - 4:08Say, "This is how I see the problem,
but how do you see it?" -
4:08 - 4:11Don't assume that your perception
is the objective truth. -
4:11 - 4:14That'll help you work toward sharing
a dialogue with others -
4:14 - 4:17to reach a common understanding together.
- Title:
- How miscommunication happens (and how to avoid it) - Katherine Hampsten
- Speaker:
- Katherine Hampsten
- Description:
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View full lesson: http://ed.ted.com/lessons/how-to-avoid-miscommunication-katherine-hampsten
Have you ever talked with a friend about a problem, only to realize that he just doesn’t seem to grasp why the issue is so important to you? Have you ever presented an idea to a group, and it’s met with utter confusion? What’s going on here? Katherine Hampsten describes why miscommunication occurs so frequently, and how we can minimize frustration while expressing ourselves better.
Lesson by Katherine Hampsten, animation by Andrew Foerster.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
closed TED
- Project:
- TED-Ed
- Duration:
- 04:33
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