The ONLY Way To Stop Procrastinating | Mel Robbins

You're not a procrastinator,

you have a habit

of procrastinating,

big difference.

Because if it's a habit,

I can teach you to use science to break it. (MUSIC)

So,

let's talk a little bit about procrastination.

Who in here struggles with procrastination?

Yeah,

and the rest of you that aren't raising

your hand are just procrastinating on doing it,

aren't you?

I know.

You see,

I always thought procrastination had to do

with the thing I was procrastinating around,

right?

Like that procrastination has something to do with work.

Believe it or not,

procrastination has nothing to do with your work.

Procrastination

is a form of stress relief.

Let me explain this.

So, let's say that you've got some stuff going on in your life,

and heck,

who doesn't have stuff going on in your life?

Maybe you're fighting with your significant other,

maybe mom's or dad's health is failing and it's really,

really upsetting you.

Maybe you've got some financial stuff, you put too much

of your savings into Bitcoin and now that that's crashed,

you're stressed out about it,

right?

And so, you go into work and when you get into work, you got stuff to do, you kind of walk

in and you got this big stress ball that

subconsciously is hanging over your head. And so, you walk in

and you sit down and you know you got 13 phone calls you

need to make and you also know that you've been chickening out.

You've been making easy

calls and there's a bunch of CIOs or other

people that are higher level that you haven't been calling.

And so, as you sit down to do it, you got the stress on your shoulders,

your brain that it starts to go, "Wait a minute, you want

me to make a call to somebody that I'm scared to make?"

Absolutely not!

I'm so stressed out about, can we just watch some cat videos for a minute?

And next thing you know an hour's gone by, and then of course what do

you do? You beat yourself up. So, the only way that you can break this habit

and that's an important word for you to hear

you're not a procrastinator,

you have a habit

of procrastinating,

big difference.

Because if it's a habit,

I can teach you to use science to break it.

You see,

all habits have three parts.

There's a trigger

and in the case of procrastination,

the trigger is always stress.

Then there's a pattern you repeat and in the case of procrastination, it is to avoid

doing something,

and then there's a reward.

You get a little stress relief.

The only way

to break a habit,

you guys,

is not to deal with the triggers.

You're never gonna get rid of the stress in your life,

but you can 100% change your pattern of avoiding work.

So, next time that you're in a situation where you feel yourself hesitate,

you spent way too much time checking out the highlights from last night's scores,

what you're gonna do is you're gonna go,

"Oh,

I must be stressed out about something."

Acknowledge the stress,

then go 5-4-3-2-1.

I want you to count to yourself because I want you to interrupt the

habit that's stored here and I want you to awaken your prefrontal cortex.

Then I want you to just work just for 5 minutes.

The reason why I want you to only work

for 5 minutes is because your problem isn't working.

It's the habit of avoiding.

I just need you to start. And here's the other cool thing,

we know based on research that if we can get you to start,

80% of you are going to keep going. (MUSIC)