Self Inquiry Dyad Instructions for Zoom Meetings-Creating conditions of No Escape for the Egoic Mind

Tell me who you are

Tell me who you are

Tell me who you are

Self-inquiry dyads are one of the most
expedient ways to bring about Kensho

or awakening to your true nature.
Especially when done in a retreat

which creates conditions of
no escape for the egoic mind.

Doing Self-inquiry dyads
via Zoom works really well.

I'm going to run through the process and
address some of the unique considerations

of doing diads via Zoom, so that
you have the optimal experience.

First make sure that your camera is
set up so that you can look directly

into your partner's eyes. When you're
in the dyad, it's best that you're

paying attention to your partner looking
at their image, not staring at the camera

Please make sure that you are unmuted
when you start the dyads,

and that your camera is turned on.

The meeting automatically begins in
speaker view and because of this

you can see your own video when you're
speaking, but you don't want

to see yourself when you're speaking,
you want to see your partner.

so hover over your video and click
the ellipses button in your video

to display the menu, then choose
'hide self view'

you will no longer see the video of
yourself even though others

in the meeting can see the video of you.

If you have technical problems
or problems with the technique,

there's a button to
contact the facilitator.

Click here to ask the host for help.

Outside of the actual dyad process
please do not chat with your partner.

If you chat or engage in conversation
you are activating the conditioned mind

and you will lose progress.

Once you have entered a breakout room,
decide who will give the imperative first

So what would you like to do first, would
you like to report or be the witness?

If you ask me I rather would
like to be the witness.

The one who gives the imperative
will be the witness and the

other partner will do the inquiry.

You'll be the witness? Okay.

You'll give me the imperative.

Before giving the imperative, feel
your intention to want to know

who this being is in front of you.

When you say "Tell me who you are,"
make it sincere.

You really want to know
who this being is.

Tell me who you are. The witness
looks directly into the eyes

of the inquirer, and says:
"Tell me who you are."

The witness does not nod,
make facial responses

or make any sound while witnessing.

Do not change the imperative.
The imperative is 'Tell me who you are'

It is not 'who are you?' and it is not
can you tell me who you are?

If you ask who are you, or can you
tell me who you are these are questions

the imperative tell me who you are
is not a question but a command

it is an imperative to authentically
communicate as your true self.

Understand that this is not a question,
therefore we're not looking for an answer

on the level of the conditioned mind.
'Tell me who you are' is a command,

Tell me, convey to me who you are.

Tell me who you are.

The person inquiring intends to directly
experience their true nature.

Directly means not via the mind.

When you receive the imperative,
get a sense of 'I amness'

of present awareness or 'beingness'.
That which has always been present,

even when you were a little kid.
Intend to directly experience who you are.

Another way of saying this, is
'be still and know'. Be still

and get a sense of that primordial
consciousness that is ever present.

Depending on the number of participants,
sometimes there will be three people

in the breakout rooms.
So instead of a dyad it will be a triad.

In this case two people will be witnesses
while one person does the inquiry.

Instead of saying tell me who you are, the
imperative will be 'Tell us who you are."

When you receive the imperative,
you can take a moment.

If you want to close your eyes
and go inward that's fine.

There's no right or wrong way to do it.

Once you have inquired directly, then
observe anything that comes up

within the self structure,
as a result of that inquiry.

Just remain open to anything that
wants to come up to the surface

and share it as fully
as you can with your partner

Whatever comes up
as a result of the inquiry.

There's a sense of grace that's
hanging out with tension

It may be words or sounds, emotions,
laughs, cries, memories, feelings...

So the first thing that's noticed, that's
arising

it's like a cloud of what the
mind would call intense sensations

it's important to be free
and not censor or suppress

any thoughts, beliefs,
emotions or phenomena.

So when I received that, I felt a movement
of energy, strong sensations

in the forehead, in the third eye area.

It felt like I was becoming more awake,
more present in the room.

Who am I in this experience?

I don't know, just the words are coming
I don't know.

Just being here, just noticing.

Your inquiry will generally be
around 5 to 6 minutes

Sometimes it's less, sometimes longer.
Don't worry about the length of time,

but at the same time try not to
take up all the time.

40 minutes is too long and don't try to
get off the hook too quickly.

one or two minutes is too short.

It's important that the witness
remains totally neutral.

No facial expressions, no positive
or negative feedback.

This lack of feedback allows the person
doing the inquiry to be totally free.

There is a sense that they're being heard.
They're being listened to,

but not judged in any way. There is
neither encouragement nor is there

a reaction or contraction to
anything being said.

The witness should try their best
to understand their partner.

if what is being said is not clear the
one thing the witness can says is

_ Can you clarify that please?"

"Can you clarify that please?'

Be especially conscious of words like
I, me, my, mine, or myself.

Don't use these words unconsciously.
Find out who do these words point to.

We often use these words to reinforce
identification with the false self.

With the character.

The facilitators will enter your
room with their camera off.

Simply respond to their prompts
maintaining eye contact with your partner.

What's happening in the mind right now?
It's the mind trying to do something?

There's so many emotions, like...

The ego mind is wanting to be inserted,
like I'm here, like I'm here.

Look at me really active.

Like really,
wanting to take the front seat.

So there's a struggle

When you feel that your share is
complete then you can say thank you

and give a little namaste with your hands.

Thank you.

If at any point during the inquiry you
feel that you are stuck you can ask

yourself what is the most real thing
that is observable in this moment

how is this exercise making me feel.
Is there something being held back

that wants to be expressed?
most importantly have fun with it.

Be childlike, spontaneous and free with
your sharing. As you are more and more

able to convey who you are, you may let
go of the burden of trying to do it right

The burden of knowing, just letting
the mind be a don't know mind

or a beginner's mind.