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Good evening, Good evening
How are you
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Are you good?
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Great, welcome welcome
welcome to this match
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this match will take exactly 18 minutes.
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And you all part of the same team
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Hey guys, I would like to see fair play
on the field, respect, and positivity.
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Is that ok for everyone?
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Cool. Good luck.
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One year ago, I decided I want to become
a football referee,
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um, it's not because of the money though
I only get paid 20 euros per match.
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So, I won't really get rich by it rely.
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Now, I decided to become a referee
for 2 other reasons.
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One, do things go cheap?
Two, because I wanted to learn
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How not to take things personally?
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I can see some people nodding,
you're probably thinking being a referee
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is a perfect environment to learn
how not to take things personally?
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Isn't it?
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Because, expectators hardly ever shouted encouraging or positive things.
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No.
What do they shout?
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Come on, come on.
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[Loser, Are you blind?]
Yeah, good good.
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As a referee, I am discabed goat.
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Apparently, I'm always wrong.
It's always my fault.
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And I wanted to learn
how not to take all of this personally.
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Because I really struggle with this.
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For example, when I drive slowly
because I'm trying to find this specific location.
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And somebody is just driving behind me,
I feel hunted,
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especially when they start honking,
and flashing their headlines.
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[Sigh]
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I take personally.
I know, I shouldn't.
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But it just happens, do you see what I mean?
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Or when somebody cancels
an appointment last minute
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I get the feeling that
I'm not important enough.
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Again, I take it personally.
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Even professionally.
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I'm a public speaker like tonight,
this is what I do,
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I give keynotes speeches
and I really like it
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as long as I can draw my audience into my story
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because the very, the very moment I see somebody is not paying attention
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